give more context to what lewis is saying about spoiling.... obvious he thinks it's wrong, but i wonder if he is saying that the "need to feel needed" is itself wrong or only when that need goes overboard. personally, i totally feel better about myself when i feel like someone needs me. on the other hand, i get completely annoyed when someone asks me to do something for them that they are capable of doing themselves.... i'm not sure what that means other than that I'm selfish :^)